Lunch Break OA
As I parked my car to pick up some lunch I noticed a group of guys yelling at another guy who I presumed was asking them for money. As I got out of my car, I sensed this ‘other guy’ approaching my car. My immediate reaction was to avoid him, so I actually returned into my car as if I was still looking for something when the thought about how idiotic I was being struck me (especially since I am smack in the middle of facilitating a ‘Doable Evangelism’ class at our church!).
I got out of the car and sure enough this guy approached me and simply asked me if I had some spare change. I said I would have some just as soon as I leave the store I was heading into and that I’ll be glad to help him out. He told me the other guys in the parking lot were just yelling at him and told him to ‘get a job’ - to which he said, ‘That’s easy for them to say since they have 2 working legs’. You see, this guy was using a walker just to get around. I honestly never had the thought if he was faking the need for the walker or not - it didn’t matter to me. I told him that was ‘just wrong’ for those guys to ridicule him like that.
I went into the store to get my lunch and returned outside to find him walking away - the store was busy and it took longer than usual. I got in my car and drove across the parking lot to where the guy was asking someone else for help. I stopped him and told him I was longer than usual but did not forget him. Before I gave him some money, I asked him his name. He told me it was Tim. I looked Tim in the eyes, shook his hand and said, “Hi Tim, my name is Joel. Nice to meet you - here ya go”. His reaction was a big sigh of relief as he said, ‘Thanks - and, thanks for not making fun of me’. I paused to reflect on that and told him, “No way - why would I do that?” And then I prayed that Tim would make it thru the day without anyone else making fun of him.
-Joel McBride
April 16th, 2008 · 4 Comments
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Jim Henderson said
am April 18 2008 @ 10:09 am
very painful to read. Can’t imagine having to live life with that constant feeling of rejection. Thanks for giving him a cup of cold water
April Terry said
am April 19 2008 @ 1:04 am
Joel - Obviously, it was great that you didn’t ridicule him, but I think that when you asked him his name, you really cut to the heart of the problem.
The last time I tried to throw food at a homeless man who wasn’t hungry, I realized that I spent several minutes trying to convince him he should have the food, and not one second finding out who he was or what his name was. You put a name to the person, rather than making your own determination about who he was and why he was in the predicament he was in. You humanized him, and I think that is the direction we all need to be going.
Sterling Ulrich said
am April 19 2008 @ 12:20 pm
Wow… that’s all I have to say. Wow…
Ken said
am April 21 2008 @ 11:44 am
I hope everyone who reads this asks themselves:
“How hard was that?”
Sooner or later we’re going to get it …