It’s amazing how “safe” we become to others if we are willing to just ask a simple question and then really listen. I think we sometimes don’t ask “How are you?” for example (aside from the obvious “greeting only” way), because we are afraid someone might actually tell us…and we feel compelled to be able to solve their problems and make them feel better. Guys, especially, I think.

But we’re learning that just listening to someone tell their story is powerful. No wisdom required. No solution really asked for. Just a willingness to spend a few minutes listening. This has taken me well below the surface with people I had only just met. I think it makes me feel safe to them.